IT was on Monday morning, January the first, 1917,
that I learned of my boy's death. And he had been killed the Thursday
before ! He had been dead four days before I knew it! And yet I had
known. Let no one ever again tell me that there is nothing in
presentiment. Why else had I been so sad and uneasy in my mind ? Why
else, all through that Sunday, had it been so impossible for me to take
comfort in what was said to cheer me ? Some warning had come to me, some
sense that all was not well.
Realization came to me slowly. I sat and stared at
that slip of paper, that had come to me like the breath of doom. Dead!
Dead these four days! I was never to see the light of his eyes again. I
was never to hear that laugh of his. I had looked on my boy for the last
time. Could it be true? Ah, I knew it was. And it was for this moment
that I had been waiting, that we had all been waiting, ever since we had
sent John away to fight for his country and do his part. I think we had
all felt that it must come. We had all known that it was too much to
hope that he should be one of those to be spared.
The black despair that had been hovering over me for
hours closed down now and enveloped all my senses. Everything was
unreal. For a time I was quite numb. But then, as I began to realize and
to visualize what it was to mean in my life that my boy was dead, there
came a great pain. The iron of realization slowly seared every word of
that curt telegram upon my heart. I said it to myself, over and over
again. And I whispered to myself, as my thoughts took form, over and
over, the one terrible word: "Dead!"
I felt that for me everything had come to an end with
the reading of that dire message. It seemed to me that for me the board
of life was black and blank. For me there was no past and there could be
no future. Everything had been swept away, erased, by one sweep of the
hand of a cruel fate. Oh, there was a past, though ! And it was in that
past that I began to delve. It was made up of every memory I had of my
boy. I fell at once to remembering him. I clutched at every memory, as
if I must grasp them and make sure of them; lest they be taken from me
as well as the hope of seeing him again that the telegram had for ever
I would have been destitute indeed in that event. It
was as if I must fix in my mind the way he had been wont to look, and
recall to my ears every tone of his voice, every trick of his speech.
There was something left of him that I must keep, I realized, even then,
at all costs, if I was to be able to bear his loss at all.
There was a vision of him before my eyes. My bonnie
Highland laddie, brave and strong, in his kilt and the uniform of his
country, going out to his death with a smile on his face. And there was
another vision that came up now, unbidden. It was a vision of him lying
stark and cold upon the battlefield, the mud on his uniform. And when I
saw that vision I was like a man gone mad and possessed of devils who
had stolen away his faculties. I cursed war as I saw that vision, and
the men who caused war. And when I thought of the Germans who had killed
my boy, a terrible and savage hatred swept me, and I longed to go out
there and kill with my bare hands, until I had avenged him or they had
killed me too.
But then I was a little softened. I thought of his
mother back in our wee hoose at Dunoon. And the thought of her, bereft
even as I was, sorrowing, even as I was, and lost in her frightful
loneliness, was pitiful, so that I had but the one desire and wishto go
to her, and join my tears with hers, that we who were left alone to bear
our grief, might bear it together and give one to the other such comfort
as there might be in life for us. And so I fell upon my knees and
prayed, there in my lonely room in the hotel. I prayed to God that He
might give us both, John's mother and myself, strength to bear the blow
that had been dealt us, and to endure the sacrifice that He and our
country had demanded of us.
My friends came to me. They came rushing to me. Never
did man have better friends, and kindlier friends than mine proved
themselves to me on that day of sorrow. They did all that good men and
women could do. But there was no help for me in the ministration of
friends. I was beyond the power of human words to comfort or solace. I
was glad of their kindness, and the memory of it now is a precious one,
which I would not be without. But at such a time I could not gain from
them what they were eager to give me. I could only bow my head and pray
That night, that New Year's night that I shall never
forget, no matter how long God may let me live, I went north. I took
train from London to Glasgow, and the next day I came to our wee hoosea
sad, lonely wee hoose it had become now!on the Clyde at Dunoon, and was
with John's mother. It was the place for me. It was there that I wanted
to be, and it was with her, who must hereafter be all the world to me.
And I was eager to be with her, too, who had given John to me. Sore as
my grief was, stricken as I was, I could comfort her as no one else
could hope to do, and she could do as much for me. We belonged together.
I can scarce remember, even for myself, what happened
there at Dunoon. I cannot tell you what I said or what I did, or what
words and what thoughts passed between John's mother and myself. But
there are some things that I do know and that I will tell you.
Almighty God, to whom we prayed, was kind, and He was
pitiful and merciful. For presently He brought us both a sort of sad
composure. Presently He assuaged our grief a little, and gave us the
strength that we must have to meet the needs of life and the thought of
going on in a world that was darkened by the loss of the boy in whom all
our thoughts and all our hopes had been centred. I thanked God then, and
I thank God now, that I have never denied Him nor taken His name in
For God gave me great thoughts about my boy and about
his death. Slowly, gradually, He made me to see things in their true
light, and He took away the sharp agony of my first grief and sorrow,
and gave me a sort of peace.
John died in the most glorious cause, and he died the
most glorious death it may be given to a man to die. He died for
humanity. He died for liberty, and that this world in which life must go
on, no matter how many die, may be a better world to live in. He died in
a struggle against the blackest force and the direst threat that has
appeared against liberty and humanity within the memory of man. And were
he alive now, and were he called again to-day to go out for the same
cause, knowing that he must meet deathas he did meet ithe would go as
smilingly and as willingly as he went then. He would go as a British
soldier and a British gentleman, to fight and die for his King and his
country. And I would bid him go.
I have lived through much since his death. They have
not let me take a rifle or a sword and go into the trenches to avenge
him. . . . But of that I will tell you later.
Ah, it was not at once that I felt so ! In my heart,
in those early days of grief and sorrow, there was rebellion, often and
often. There were moments when in my anguish I cried out, aloud: "Why?
Why? Why did they have to take John, my boymy only child?"
But God came to me, and slowly His peace entered my
soul. And He made me see, as in a vision, that some things that I had
said and that I had believed, were not so. He made me know, and I
learned, straight from Him, that our boy had not been taken from us for
ever as I had said to myself so often since that telegram had come.
He is gone from this life, but he is waiting for us
beyond this life. He is waiting beyond this life and this wicked world
of war and wanton cruelty and slaughter. And we shall come, some day,
his mother and I, to the place where he is waiting for us, and we shall
all be as happy there, as we were on this earth in the happy days before
My eyes will rest again upon his face. I will hear
his fresh young voice again as he sees me and cries out his greeting. I
know what he will say. He will spy me, and his voice will ring out as it
used to do. "Hello, Dad!" he will call, as he sees me. And I will feel
the grip of his young, strong arms about me, just as in the happy days
before that day that is of all the days of my life the most terrible and
the most hateful in my memory the day when they told me that he had
That is my belief. That is the comfort that God has
given me in my grief and my sorrow. There is a God. Ah, yes, there is a
God! Times there are, I know, when some of those who look upon the
horrid slaughter of this war, that is going on, hour by hour, feel that
their faith is being shaken by doubts. They think of the sacrifices, of
the blood that is being poured out, of the sufferings of women and
children. And they see the cause that is wrong and foul prospering, for
a little time, and they cannot understand.
"If there is a God," they whisper to themselves, "why
does He permit a thing so wicked to go on?"
But there is a Godthere is! I have seen the stark
horror of war. I know, as none can know until he has seen it at close
quarters, what a thing war is as it is fought to-day. And I believe as I
do believe, and as I shall believe until the end, because I know God's
comfort and His grace. I know that my boy is surely waiting for me. In
America, now, there are mothers and fathers by the scores of thousands
who have bidden their sons good-bye; who water their letters from France
with their tearswho turn white at the sight of a telegram and tremble
at the sudden clamour of a telephone. Ah, I knowI know! I suffered as
they are suffering. And I have this to beg them and to tell them. They
must believe as I believe; then shall they find the peace and the
comfort that I have found.
So it was that there, on the Clyde, John's mother and
I came out of the blackness of our first grief. We began to be able to
talk to one another. And every day we talked of John. We have never
ceased to do that, his mother and I. We never shall. We may not have him
with us bodily, but his spirit is never absent. And each day we remember
some new thing about him that one of us can
call to the other's mind. And it is as if, when we do that, we bring
back some part of him out of the void.
Little, trifling memories of when he was a baby, and
when he was a boy, growing up. And other memories, of later days. Often
and often it was the daysthat were
furthest away that we remembered best of all, and things connected with
But I had small wish to see others. John's mother was
enough for me. She and the peace that was
coming to me on the Clyde. I could not bear to think of London. I had no
plans to make. All that was over. All that part of my life, I thought,
had ended with the news of my boy's death. I wanted no more than to stay
at home on the Clyde and think of him. My wife and I did not even talk
about the future. And nothing was further from all my thoughts than that
I should ever step upon a stage again.
What! Go out before an audience and seek to make it
laugh? Sing my songs when my heart was broken? I did not decide not to
do it. I did not so much as think of it as a thing I had to decide
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